“Okay Jarrod, Breathe out on three. One, two three.” Rip.
“Hisss! Oh the belly is always the hardest part” said Jarrod.
“Really? I would’ve thought the opposite” I said. I went with Jarrod to Polished in Georgetown for his normal waxing appointment to check it out and possibly sign up for an appointment. Jarrod loved the owner and had been going there for years, even before it was written up in Washingtonian Magazine.
“The belly is the most painful. Everything else is quite relaxing. So tell me, how’s Matt? Tyler and I had fun hanging out with you guys at the Christmas Market.”
“We had fun with you guys too. Tyler is hilarious by the way. You know I’m following him on Twitter now. He totally brightens my day. Things with Matt are good; still taking it as it comes. I was a little nervous after our talk but it hasn’t caused any problems between us. Actually, he’s been making more of an effort to express himself.” Read more…
It was a beautiful early Saturday morning and my bed felt warm and lovely like it normally does on mornings when I don’t have to go to the office. The light was starting to peak through the blinds in my bedroom and I rolled over a bit drifting back into a semi-slumber.
My hand came out from under the warm covers and Peanut saw it and came over to the side of the bed wagging her tail in anticipation. I rolled over a bit more so I could curl up in the covers but still pet Peanut the way she liked: under the mouth, then down the top of her head, finally ending at her rump where she liked a good scratch.
Peanut and her owner Scotty had slept over twice before and everything had gone off without a hitch. The first time she came over, Peanut sniffed around the entire place but was generally okay. Except for having to put the trash can on a step ladder to prevent prying paws from dumpster diving, Peanut required very little dog-proofing for her overnight visits.
I petted Peanut for a couple more minutes until my internal coffee alarm clock went off. Scotty was still fast asleep so I went downstairs to make coffee and Peanut followed. She watched me while I made coffee then did something I had never seen her do before: she went to my back door and waited. Read more…
Ladi6 is New Zealand’s leading hip-hop soul artist. Yeah, you read it right. I came across this song on a Hed Kandi mix and immediately added it to my Getting Ready to Go Out playlist. I love this song hands down. The lyrics are flirty, sultry and sharp; just like a good date should be.
A live version of Ladi performing this song is after the jump. If you’re in New Zealand they are currently touring in promotion of their new album The Liberation Of…
Ladi6 also joins my list of amazing bands that I wish would play in the US. In the meantime, you can download their music from iTunes and Amazon.
I usually write this blog on a major time delay but the following thoughts popped in my head last night and I didn’t feel like waiting x number of months to get them off my chest.
I was talking with my mom last night and I just wasn’t up to our normal conversation. You see, my mom is one of my best friends and we talk about almost everything; including my dating life. While we don’t go into great detail (she is my mom, not my girlfriend), it’s been a good thing to have her ear and perspective when it comes to dating.
She asked me what was wrong and that’s when I blurted out what had been painfully obvious to me since almost a month ago: I’m turning 35 this year. Read more…
Keith Haring mural @ 22nd & Ellsworth Sts | Philadelphia
It was the perfect Tuesday evening date in. Matt came over with a bottle of wine and delicious cupcakes from Red Velvet Cupcakery. I cooked tofu for me and pork chops for him. After dinner, we curled up on the couch to watch an episode of Weeds on the DVR.
“That was a fun episode” I said. “Want to watch another?”
“Yeah, it was okay” said Matt. “I’m waiting for this show to jump the shark. Sure; put another one on my cupcake.”
“Okay cookie dough. Listen, there’s something I want to talk to you about.”
“Okay Daddy-K what’s up?”
“Well, I was thinking about this a little over the weekend, and it’s hard for me to put into words. I’ve really enjoyed spending time with you these past two months and I like the pace that we’ve been moving at. I mean, I’m not trying to rush into anything and I’m enjoying getting to know you and I think you feel the same way, yes?” Read more…
I received a bevy of comments about yesterday’s post on Facebook research/stalking from folks in person and on Twitter. I’m surprised that some of the commentators said that looking a guy up on Facebook was totally okay because “if you put a sign in your window, you can’t expect people not to read it.” By the way, thanks MrFindMen for the tweet.
Yes, you shouldn’t be shocked if someone finds and reads, views, listens to whatever it is you post on the internet. But one of the points I was trying to convey in my post is that researching information on the internet about someone you like and want to date shouldn’t be used as a substitute for social interaction. Read more…
I was out having drinks with my friend Jake when something caught his eye across the room of the bar. “Look” Jake said, “It’s the guy I’ve been Facebook stalking over there with his friends.”
I laughed out loud. “Are you serious? You are really stalking this guy on Facebook?!”
Jake looked at me rather sheepishly, “well, yeah. I’ve seen him out a couple times and we have some mutual friends on Facebook. I was able to find out his name and look at pictures of him that I can see via our mutual friends. It’s totally unrequited love, I know; but I’m just trying to work up the courage to talk to him and maybe ask him out.”
Now Jake is rather attractive with a certain look about him that has been known to bring a few boys to the yard. I really thought his behavior was a little random until I got into an IM conversation with my friend Anthony who IM’d me looking for advice on a first date.
For your lunch hour, I’d like you to sit back and enjoy the teachings of Alexyss K Tyler AKA Vagina Power. The video below is a clip from her public access show in Atlanta and speaks to the issues of being able to distinguish between, sex, love and a relationship.
I think every gay man should listen to Alexyss because she speaks honestly about sex and relationships with a frankness that we sometimes need to hear. As men, I think we are told to believe that being promiscuous and making sex and dating about conquests and physical activity is okay; based on the overly simple justification that we are men. If you agree, and have no qualms approaching your interactions with other men as if you are in a “predator” mode then this post isn’t meant for you and don’t take my musings as disrespect towards your game.
But if you are out there seriously trying to date and look for love in a relationship, then I seriously invite you to consider what Alexyss has to say. Just change the pronoun “she” to “he” and you’ll get the point of what she is saying.
You can find out more about Alexyss via her YouTube channels here and here. Enjoy. Language NSFW.
Matt was away for the weekend and I decided to go dancing Saturday night with some friends. We headed to The Bachelor’s Mill, and took to the house music dance floor. Everyone was having a good time when Idris joined the group.
Now Idris is every bit like his actor-namesake: tall, intelligent, handsome and soft-chocolate skin that you can lose yourself in. Idris was friends with people in my group but he and I were acquaintances. I mean, I knew the man, but there wasn’t any way you could avoid knowing him. Yes, he’s that good-looking. Read more…
So, remember all that stuff I mentioned yesterday about putting yourself out there even in the face of possible rejection? Well we’re not all wine and roses over here at Kissing Kamal, and I know first-hand that dating and getting to know someone doesn’t always work out for the best.
For the most part, I can’t say that I’ve had too many relationships or dating experiences end on a bad note. If you’re mature and nothing bad happened e.g. no one cheated or wasn’t a royal jerk; then I don’t think it’s too hard to end with both parties at least being friendly. But there were times when Cee Lo’s Fuck You song came in handy. Read more…