Sorry, I’ve been absent this week as I’ve been busy with a ton of conference calls …
I don’t know about you, but I’ve definitely been in a bit of a funk lately. At first I thought it was the weather, because I think you’d agree this has been a very weird Indian Summer for DC. Then I thought it might be something more serious, and considered seeing my doctor. Doc, I wanted the General Tso’s not the general malaise. Finally, after some reflection and plenty of Netflix, I realized the cause: I’m 35. Read more…
After work, I stopped in at Whole Foods to pick up some last minute items for a meal I planned to make. I was in the produce aisle looking over the fennel when a voice from behind me said, “can I help you find something?”
OMG, that velvety smooth voice! I turned around and it was Idris. I took one look at him and almost lost my footing. This man put the ‘well’ in well dressed, wearing an impeccable navy blue suit with a handsome shirt and tie combination. His smile was like a laser beam set on full blast, and I was melting right in front of him.
“Hey Idris” I said. “What a surprise running into you here.” As if I didn’t know that he lived in the area.
“Yeah, same here Kamal. It’s been a while since we last saw each other. How are things?”
“Things are good. Just picking up some items for dinner. In fact, I’m cooking a big meal with no one to share it with. You’re welcome to come over and join me,” I said with a smile.
While I was utterly captivated by Idris and his sexy demeanor, don’t think for one second that I was going to miss out on this opportunity that Fate thrust into my lap. Read more…
The comic included in this post is getting traction in my Facebook news feed lately. It’s very funny, and if you are a bear or know a few, then you’ve heard jokes about this bearish queen’s lament on why he can’t date a fellow bear.
But what I’m noticing more of lately is self-proclaimed bears commenting on assholey behavior like this when out and looking to meet guys.
Now granted, not everyone is going to be everyone else’s type. Just because we are in the same place for a happy hour drink or two doesn’t mean that we should be expected to want to kiss every guy in the room. But if someone is getting the subtle hint that a room full of guys may not like what it is they’re selling, then he’s bound to question himself and try to figure out what it is that might be wrong.
Now before I continue, let me take a moment to address the peanut gallery (bonjour girl!). As you easily surmised, I am not a bear. Does this mean that I shouldn’t comment on what goes on in the bear community? Sure, if you want to follow that line of thinking, then go with it; make your judgments, call me a nosey queen and read no further except to take my comments out of context and misquote me to whomever will listen.
SO, while I am not a bear, I am a minority within a minority and my experiences qualify me to say that I think the bear community is headed for a bit of dating trouble and here’s why: Read more…
Real-time update: I’ve been away from the blog because I was helping a local organization plan a fundraising event, and it was truly a rewarding experience. Not only did we meet our goal of raising money for charity, but we also helped further the group’s mission of awareness and community involvement.
Even if you don’t think you have time in your schedule, I highly recommend shifting around some priorities and finding the time to give back and volunteer. Besides, what better way to take a break from a hectic schedule or dating life gone haywire than to focus energy on a worthy cause?
If I’ve peaked your interest and you’re looking for ideas, try Burgundy Crescent Volunteers (website). It’s an lgbt volunteer group that organizes volunteers in the DC area, and they can point you in the direction of a cause or activity to give some time to.