The Headaches of Dating (Repair) Men
Is dealing with repairmen and contractors much like being single, gay and dating?
I’ve been stressed beyond belief all week and it’s all due to repairmen. I haven’t been able to concentrate on work, social outings, or writing this blog due to worry and stress caused by their actions.
It all started when I got into a relationship with one who promised to treat me right. He presented himself well, talked like he was sure of himself and sure of my needs, and any friend I asked had nothing bad to say about him. Everything was there that made me believe things with him would work out.
Then the typical problems started. The signs were there but I ignored them: never answering the phone when I called; only replying to me via text; promising to be there, then cancelling at the last minute or just not showing up at all.
Like an idiot, I thought being nicer and throwing more money at the problem would smooth things over. In the end, I had to walk away as I was afraid that continuing down a path with him would be unwise and even hazardous.
In realizing that I made the decision to move on without him, I too had to realize that it was up to me to continue on with conviction and carry forward with finding a repairman who could fulfill my needs. But first I had to assess what possible damage the previous one had done, and budget enough time to fix any issues caused by my relationship with him.
After consulting with experts, I had a diagnosis: no hazardous or permanent damage. I was a little worse for wear but could carry on.
I eventually found another repairman who could meet my needs. He was gentle and kind, came when he said he would, and worked slowly but methodically to finish the job. I was afraid that he would see how vulnerable I was but, even if he did, he proved to be a good man by not taking advantage of it.
Dealing with repairmen can be scary for sure, but I consider it part of the deal for making the decision to take ownership of my home and my future.